It’s funny how when your single, all your immediate friends are in wonderful relationships. As soon as you find someone who floors you, they then are suddenly on shaky grounds with their significant other, then the enviable happens. The balance shifts, the Jenga tower falls, and they are ready to play in the octagon of freedom that the single life submerses you into. It’s hilariously inconvenient, but the world has bigger plans for all of us. Things seem to change drastically and suddenly when it comes to relationships and life in general.

I have one of my best friends arriving here in only a handful of days. We surfed together and grew a bond that’s turned into a brotherhood that will last my entire existence. I remember going surfing every winter. We would drink coffee all day, passing the time dreaming about warmer climates with palm trees that shadowed the warm sun that crisps our bodies like greek gods after endless hours of gliding through flawless barrels of liquid. Our dream has always been to have the capability to surf everyday. It’s coming true and were now getting to share the adventure and dream with one another. It’s a fairy tale ending, no beginning, for two best friends who wanted to share waves and laughs for a lifetime.

He is recently single as I am falling in like with someone. My friends here, are going through the same thing. They are all newly single, and ready to mingle. I’m Ryan Gosling in crazy stupid love, they are, ” the three best friends that anyone ever had” from The Hangover. They are ready to rage, I’m ready to romance, wine and dine. The greatest advantage to this is, I have advice and experience in the field they are becoming familiar with, and they have that for me. Its a bromance to the max, and as strange as this timing is, it works. We will all drink PBR,talk about women, and complain about nothing until the end of time.

We as a group have one common thread that bonds us, emotion. We, despite popular believe, give a shit about other people. Sometimes too much, hence the popular status of most of their relationships. It’s a tragedy that these guys went through what they have. I love you all, Que New Found Glory ” My Friends Over You”.

This is the icing on the cake. My friend moving here has no idea what this group is like. He’s never met my west coast family. He will be moving here and already people are excited to meet him. Hopefully his transition will be a welcoming and a smooth one. I plan on doing my best to make that happen for him. The shift under his feet, this time, will be slight.

The change is welcomed by all of us. It’s funny, my spartan warrior looking friend seems to be most reluctant and shows signs of hesitation. That’s what I’m there for though. They all joke about my best friend moving here, and how I’ll drop everyone to spend all my time
with him, or the girl I am dating. It’s funny because my last major shift taught me one thing. Don’t do that.

I learned that these twists, turns, ups, downs, peak, and valleys are all to teach you something every time. It all happens for a reason and I now know from experience your supposed to share these great people and not seclude the relationships. I want to spend time with everyone as a group and also one on one. A healthy balance is essential for synergy I believe. I’m building a family of people here. So I will welcome this drastic and sudden alteration, welcome my old friend, and introduce him to a family in which he is to have a key roll in. Let the ground shake and things take A new place in life. I’ll be the lover, they can be the partiers. Let the balance be restored.